From the emotionally distant to the overbearing, difficult mothers can cast a shadow over our whole lives. But they can also be the key to our success. These are all comments from people on Mumsnet, the parenting website, showing that the old adage that we all turn into our parents is still striking fear into the hearts of many. But is it true that we're doomed to repeat their mistakes?
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Description Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond.
She showcases the five different types of difficult mother-the angry mother, the controlling mother, the narcissistic mother, the envious mother, and the emotionally neglectful mother-and explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us and why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence.
She then shows how we can conduct an "emotional audit" on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons and daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges. Review quote "Apter's advice will help readers make sense of difficult mother-child relationships and develop strategies for reshaping responses and expectations.
Anyone with a problematic maternal relationship will find empathy and therapeutic approaches for healing. She lives in Cambridge, England. Rating details. Book ratings by Goodreads. Goodreads is the world's largest site for readers with over 50 million reviews. We're featuring millions of their reader ratings on our book pages to help you find your new favourite book. Close X. Learn about new offers and get more deals by joining our newsletter.
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Difficult Mothers by Terri Apter – review
Difficult Mothers: Understanding and Overcoming Their Power
Praise, for example, can disincentivize if it calls attention to intelligence rather than effort. Blame-avoidance designed to protect our egos can also prevent us from absorbing crucial lessons. Readers interested in psychological theory will be compelled by this book, as will all readers who just want to be better versions of themselves. Kirkus Review. Difficult Mothers is a magnificent accomplishment.
Difficult Mothers : Understanding and Overcoming Their Power
An essential work for readers seeking compassionate, wise guidance about the powerful relationship between mothers and their sons and daughters. I kind of skimmed this book in order to get it off the shelf before my mother visited, so maybe I missed this part, but I don't understand why the focus is restricted to the maternal relationship. She lives in Cambridge, England. Terri Apter. Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle.